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Every donor-conceived child from an SMBC will ask it eventually. Mummy, why don't I have a daddy?
Most of us lie awake at some point worrying about how to answer it. What words do we use? How much do we say? What if we get it wrong?
This week I'm joined by Beth Sadowsky — solo mum by choice, life coach, and author of Choosing Rose, a children's picture book written specifically for SMBC families. Beth is based in Florida, USA, and her daughter Lily is 7. The book started as a letter Beth wrote to Lily while she was still pregnant — a way to prepare for the conversation she knew was coming — and it became a beautifully illustrated picture book that leans into the question rather than avoiding it.
Choosing Rose isn't a biology lesson. It doesn't explain what sperm is or how IVF works. It's a story — warm enough for bedtime and honest enough to open a real conversation. The kind of book you can hand your child and read together, and the words come naturally because the story does the work.
We talk about how the book came to be, what Lily thought when she first heard it read to her, how Beth handled the moment at school when Lily said I wish I had a daddy at a table full of dads, and why Beth believes the question isn't something to dread — it's one of the most beautiful opportunities we have as solo mums.
This episode is for any solo mum who hasn't quite worked out how to start this conversation yet. Or who's been putting it off. Or who picked up the book and burst into tears before they even got to page three.
You don't have to have it all figured out. You just have to begin.
Choosing Rose is available on Amazon, including Amazon Australia. Search: Choosing Rose Beth Sadowsky.
In this episode:
What inspired Beth to write Choosing Rose — and why it started as a letter, not a book
The gap in children's books for SMBC families — what exists, what doesn't, and why it matters
Why Beth deliberately kept the book free of biological detail — and what that makes possible
How Lily reacted when Beth first read it to her at age 2 — and what she thinks now at 7
The moment at a school event when Lily said "I wish I had a daddy" — and how Beth handled it without making it a big deal
Why "I wish I had a daddy" almost never means what we think it means — and what to do instead of panicking
The difference between the question being about absence vs. the question being about curiosity
How to use Choosing Rose at school to help classmates and teachers understand your family
Beth's advice for any solo mum who wants to write their own book — three things she'd tell anyone starting out
Why Father's Day is actually a perfect moment to open this conversation
Links
Choosing Rose on Amazon Australia
Beth on Instagram: @choosingmotherhoodbooks or @choosing.motherhood
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She Chose Her Mother's Coffin With Her Newborn in the Next Room
A brief note: this episode includes the death of Jessica's mum from cancer during Teddy's first year, and a hospital stay for Teddy shortly after. It's heavy in places — but told with real warmth, and it ends somewhere good.
Jessica brought Teddy home five days after his birth, straight into a household COVID exposure that saw her evacuated to her brother's for a week. It set the tone. Over the following eight months, her mum's cancer — held at bay through years of chemo — stopped responding. On Christmas Day, watching Teddy on his new swing, her mum said she was done.
Nine days later she was gone. Jessica went from choosing her mother's coffin to planning eulogies with her five-month-old in the next room — and that same night, drove Teddy to hospital with a UTI, still in her funeral clothes. She calls it, only half-joking, the worst run she's ever had.
What carries the second half of this conversation isn't the hardship — it's what Jessica does with it. A letter her mum left her says three words: look for the joy. It's tattooed on her arm now, in her mum's handwriting. She talks about grief and gratitude sitting in the same two hands, her dad's daily role in getting Teddy to daycare, and why — for now — she's landed on one and done.
In this episode:
Bringing Teddy home into a COVID household exposure, five days postpartum, and being evacuated to her brother's for a week
Her mum's decline over Teddy's first eight months, and choosing to stop active treatment on Christmas Day
Choosing her mother's coffin with her newborn in the next room
Teddy's hospital admission for a UTI the night of the funeral
Why "look for the joy" — her mum's own words — is tattooed on her arm
Going back to work at six and a half months, and needing the distraction
Her dad's daily role — early starts, daycare drop-offs, and finding purpose in it too
The second embryo still in storage, and why she's landed on "one and done"
Her message to Teddy for his 21st birthday, and her advice for anyone considering this path
Key Takeaways
You can hold joy and grief in the same two hands at the same time — becoming a mum and losing a parent aren't mutually exclusive experiences
Letting grandparents help in practical, daily ways gives them purpose too, not just support to you
Going back to work early isn't a failure of bonding — sometimes it's what makes you a better, more present parent
"One and done" is a considered decision, not a consolation prize
The advice that gets you through 3am isn't always a professional — it's a Facebook group full of people asking the same question you're too embarrassed to ask
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Ten Years, One Afternoon, and a Donor She Wasn't Supposed to Find That Fast
A brief note: this episode touches on Jessica's mum's terminal cancer diagnosis, which arrived while she was starting IVF. Nothing graphic — just wanted you to know it's there.
Jessica always knew she'd be a mum. What she had, that a lot of solo mums don't, was a role model: her aunt, a solo mum by choice back in the early '90s, back when it wasn't spoken about at all. Jessica set herself a deadline — 32 — and spent the years before it doing the groundwork: leaving a teaching career that had wrecked her mental health, retraining as a nurse through COVID, having bariatric surgery, losing 70 kilos.
By the time she walked into her fertility clinic, her mum had just been diagnosed with terminal cancer. Jessica kept going anyway — her mum wanted it that way. She found her donor on the very first afternoon she looked at profiles, then spent days convincing herself it couldn't really be that simple. It was. Her egg collection came back lower than hoped, four eggs, three fertilised — but two became embryos, and her fresh transfer implanted the same day her nan passed away.
Her mum was too unwell to be in the room for the caesarean she'd always planned to be at. Her dad stepped in instead, and cut the cord. Jessica calls it the best moment of her life — calm, exactly as she'd hoped, nothing like the year that was about to follow.
In this episode:
Growing up with a solo-mum-by-choice aunt, and what a good example of the journey looks like when you're young
Leaving teaching, moving home, and choosing nursing — specifically anaesthetics — for the job security and flexibility motherhood would need
Bariatric surgery, losing 70 kilos, and reversing her PCOS along the way
Her mum's terminal cancer diagnosis landing right as she started the fertility process — and choosing to keep going
Finding her sperm donor on the very first day, and the days it took her to believe that was real
A lower-than-hoped egg collection — 4 eggs, 3 fertilised — and why "still four" was enough
Falling pregnant the same day her nan passed away
Hyperemesis gravidarum, advanced maternal age, and working as an anaesthetic nurse through a high-risk pregnancy
Her dad stepping in for the planned caesarean, and cutting the cord
Key Takeaways
Groundwork for solo motherhood — financial, physical, mental — can start years before you make the "official" decision
Finding your donor fast isn't a red flag. It's allowed to be simple.
A low egg collection number isn't the end of the story. It only takes one.
You don't have to pause a fertility journey because life gets hard at the same time — sometimes it's the reason to keep going
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One appointment changed everything
Emma never romanticised motherhood. She spent her whole career caring for other people's children — as a live-in nanny, a live-out nanny, and eventually a kinder assistant — and somewhere along the way she started asking herself whether she'd regret not having a child of her own.
The answer was yes. And that was enough.
She didn't come to this with urgency or grief or a ticking clock. She came to it with clarity. When her best friend's AMH results came back unexpectedly, Emma went and got her own tested. Her level was 8, at 32. She booked an appointment with a fertility specialist — not sure yet whether she'd freeze her eggs or something more — and walked out of that appointment completely certain: she was going to do it now.
She picked a donor in January 2024, on the first day she allowed herself to look. She found him almost immediately. She chose him on vibe — specifically, on the way he answered a question about how he felt about potentially having a biological child out there. His honesty about the nervousness of it was the thing that landed. One round of IVF, first transfer. Positive.
Franklin arrived after an induction and one hour and fifteen minutes of active labour. He was at a wedding five days later. He is now 17 months old, obsessed with his shoes, and recently helped Emma unpack the dishwasher by putting a glass on the shelf at exactly the right height.
This is a short, honest, uncomplicated story. Not every journey is long. Not every IVF cycle fails. Emma's wasn't, and hers is here to remind you that it can just work.
In this episode:
Growing up always around kids — nannying as a career and how it shaped, and complicated, her path to motherhood
Why adoption or foster care was always in her thinking — and why the reality in Australia didn't match the idea
The AMH test that lit the fuse — and the appointment that made the decision for her
Deciding at 32 that she didn't want to wait for a relationship she wasn't sure was coming
Choosing a donor almost immediately — and why his answer about nervous anticipation of future contact was the deciding factor
IVF at City Fertility: smooth, straightforward, first transfer positive
A quick induction and one hour fifteen minutes of active labour
Coming home to a full house — her mum, her mum's partner, and a housemate — and how that helped and sometimes didn't
Mixed feeding until 8 months — three methods running simultaneously because she couldn't choose
Going to a wedding five days postpartum
The work complications that caught her off guard — disability job restructured, shifts changed, financially in limbo at 17 months postpartum
What surprised her most about having a baby after a career caring for other people's children
The FOMO that disappeared, the priorities that shifted, and the softness that settled in
Why she wants a second child — and what she'd do differently to prepare
Key Takeaways
One appointment can make the decision for you — go and get the information before you decide anything
A low AMH at 32 doesn't mean this is impossible; it means start sooner rather than later
You don't need a partner to take the next step. You just need to take the next step.
Working with children professionally does not prepare you emotionally for your own — the connection is completely different
Don't go back to work assuming everything will be the same — roles change, rosters change, hours change. Have a contingency in mind
Mixed feeding is not failure. It is just one more decision with pros and cons and no clear winner, and you will get through it either way
Solo motherhood doesn't have to be hard or long. It can just work.
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Two Kids, One Heart Condition, and No Regrets
A brief note: this episode mentions a miscarriage between Kristina's two pregnancies. She shares it with grace and without distress, but we wanted you to know it's there.
 
Kristina spent her 30s doing what she loved — living in different countries, working big marketing jobs, going out, seeing things. Children were always in the plan. A partner never quite materialised. And then her mum — a retired GP who had spent her career delivering babies — started dropping not-so-subtle hints every time she saw her.
By 38, Kristina made the appointment.
What followed was a journey that looked nothing like she imagined, partly because of the pandemic that landed in the middle of it, and partly because of the heart condition she had been managing for years — including an implanted defibrillator — that meant nobody quite knew how her body would handle a pregnancy. The answer, it turned out, was better than out of it.
Kristina conceived on her first IVF transfer at City Fertility, in Melbourne, just as the borders closed. Her whole pregnancy was in lockdown. She worked from home, mostly unseen, growing a baby in an Art Deco apartment in Prahran while the world tried to work out what was happening. Otis arrived via planned caesarean at Epworth in June 2020 — small, at 2.1 kilos, and with talipes (clubfoot) that hadn't been picked up on any scan.
What followed was five months of weekly leg casts, a small operation to release tendons, then months in boots and a bar — a mini snowboard contraption that kept his feet overcorrected while the bones formed. It was hard. He was, as Kristina puts it, a miserable baby. She moved her parents in and went on road trips whenever the lockdowns allowed.
She went back for a second child when Otis was 20 months old. There was a miscarriage between them — the numbers weren't going up, and then suddenly they were, and then there was no heartbeat. She managed it medically and ended up in hospital. It was awful. Then she went back, transferred the next embryo, and got pregnant straight away.
Seven months into that pregnancy, she packed up the apartment, flew to New Zealand with her mum and Otis, and had Ari via planned C-section at Nelson Public Hospital. This time, everything was fine. He slept. She called the midwife crying, convinced something was wrong.
Otis is five. Ari is two and a half. Kristina is about to launch her own fashion brand from Nelson. She rides bikes and scooters to school with her boys every morning. She doesn't regret a single thing.
In this episode:
Growing up the eldest of four — always knowing she wanted to be a mother, even when she was busy living her best life in her 30s
Her mum — a retired GP — planting the seed with increasing persistence, and why she's grateful for it
The heart condition and implanted defibrillator that made her wonder whether her body could handle pregnancy — and why it turned out to be the wrong thing to worry about
Deciding to keep her IUI cycles secret from almost everyone — and why she told everyone when she moved to IVF
IVF at 38-39 at City Fertility: 8 eggs, 4 embryos, pregnant on the first transfer
Getting the positive the day the COVID borders closed — her mum, her Canadian friend, and their bags packed
A COVID pregnancy — working from home, nobody watching the bump grow, quietly grateful for the rest
Otis arriving at 2.1 kilos with undetected talipes — the shock, the five months of weekly casts, the minor surgery, and the boots and bar he wore until he was four
What it was really like — the misery, the pacing, the jiggling, the shushing, and the road trips in between lockdowns
The miscarriage between her two pregnancies — what happened physically, the hospital trip that followed, and how she feels about it now
Going back, transferring the next embryo, and getting pregnant straight away
Moving to New Zealand at 7 months pregnant — what she'd do differently, and what she'd tell anyone considering the same move
Ari's birth at Nelson Public Hospital — perfectly smooth, and a baby who slept so well she thought something was wrong
Finding six solo mums in Nelson and building a community in a small town
Leaving the corporate world, turning down a dream Auckland job, and launching her own fashion brand
What surprised her most about doing this twice — and which stage she didn't expect to be the hardest
Key Takeaways
A pre-existing health condition doesn't mean solo motherhood isn't possible — it means you need the right team, honest conversations, and a specialist who will help you get there, not talk you out of it
You never feel completely ready — at some point, you have to decide the process is more important than the feeling
Telling people matters — the support you get back is almost always better than you expected
Moving countries (or even cities) for support with a second child is not retreating — it's a practical, wise decision that makes the whole thing possible
The hard parts of the newborn phase fade faster than you think — and that's not a trick, it's biology
The hardest stage with two children isn't the newborn period — it's when the younger one develops their own strong personality and the two of them want different things
You can build a solo mum community anywhere, even a small town — it finds you once you're there
Two boys, solo: they will love you fiercely, and you will take full credit for all of it
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First Try, Water Birth & Teaching Full Time
Lindsay is the kind of person who, when she decides something is happening, makes it happen.
She promised herself at 27 — the day she left her marriage — that not having a partner would never mean not having a child. She promised herself again at 30, moving to Scotland on her own without knowing a single person. And she promised herself at 35 that if she was still single, she would make it happen that year. She was. She did.
One round of IVF at Melbourne IVF. Nineteen eggs retrieved. Six embryos. A frozen transfer in December, just before her 36th birthday. A positive result over Christmas. A water birth with a doula at 37 weeks and two days — the day after her last day of work, standing in the rain doing tram duty. Aric is now eight months old. She's back teaching full time. She's planning to donate her eggs.
Lindsay is a maths and science teacher at an independent school in Melbourne. She navigated her entire IVF journey secretly, before the pregnancy was announced, managing scans and blood tests around the school day. She came back to work at five months and has spent term one figuring out what it actually means to be a full-time teacher and a full-time solo mum simultaneously — including more sick days than she's had in six years, a daycare she describes as phenomenal, and a WhatsApp group of five women from the Preparing for Solo Motherhood course who all had babies in the same year and are now, she says, the best thing in her life besides Aric.
This is a story for anyone who's been putting it off, thinks their journey will be long, or isn't sure how it's going to work with their job. Lindsay's answer to all of it is the same: you decide, and then you make it work.
In this episode:
Leaving her marriage at 27 and her mum's advice that changed everything
Living and working in Scotland at 30, dating with the FYI conversation, and the decision point at 35
The public fertility waitlist in Victoria — what it is, how long it takes, and why she's glad she explored private options at the same time
IVF at Melbourne IVF: choosing a donor, genetic carrier testing, and the last-minute transfer of funds before getting on a plane to Scotland
Nineteen eggs, six embryos, an OHSS risk, and a frozen transfer just before the Christmas clinic shutdown
Managing IVF secretly as a teacher — early morning appointments, removing clinic letterheads from medical certificates, and keeping a tight circle of support
The embryo transfer day — emotionally the hardest part of the journey, and the Facebook community moment that changed everything
A straightforward pregnancy, no complications beyond pelvic pain, and morning sickness managed with medication
Working to 37.5 weeks pregnant, tram duty in the rain on her last Friday, and Aric arriving the next day
Choosing a doula as a solo mum — why it was a deliberate, empowering choice, and how it shaped her birth
A water birth with minimal intervention, just happy gas, and what she describes as one of the most magical things she's ever done
Negotiating maternity leave in an independent school — EBAs, school holiday pay, the conversation she had to have with her principal, and going back to work at five months
A phenomenal community daycare, full time from five months, and navigating the first term back
The Preparing for Solo Motherhood course WhatsApp group — five women, five babies, late-night chats, Sunday check-ins, and a care package sent to a hospital in Sydney
Why she plans to donate her eggs — and the take-a-penny-leave-a-penny philosophy behind itKey Takeaways
Key Takeaways
The Victorian public fertility waitlist is worth joining even if private is your plan — people drop off ahead of you and circumstances change
If you're a teacher, ask your clinic for first appointments of the day — most fertility clinics accommodate this, and it's worth asking upfront
Tell your employer just enough to get the support you need — but ask about EBAs and maternity leave entitlements early, because independent schools operate differently to government schools
A doula is one of the most practical choices a solo mum can make for birth — she is your advocate, she knows your plan, and she doesn't count toward your support person limit
The course WhatsApp group is not a nice-to-have — it's one of the most important villages you can build before the baby arrives
You don't need a partner to have a rich support network — you need the right community
IVF as a solo mum by choice is empowering, not a last resort. The way we talk about it is different — and that mattersYou owe your fertility clinic no loyalty if it's not the right fit — changing clinics can change everything
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Most of the stories on this podcast start at the beginning. This one starts seven years down the track — and it's one of the most valuable perspectives we have.
Renee made her first appointment at 37, after a colleague finally said the quiet part loud and told her to just do it already. She did two IUI rounds, had a bad experience with her first IVF clinic and walked away, found Dr David Wilkinson at City Fertility, and on her third and final round — a frozen transfer she specifically advocated for against the default fresh option — fell pregnant with Aria. She was 39.
Aria is now seven. She goes to Girl Guides, swimming and karate. She spent time in Bali with the solo mum community and came home telling her teachers about her brothers and sisters. She has decided she can't find Renee a husband because all the good ones are already married. She recently concluded she'd like to learn how to be on her own first before finding a partner — and she's seven.
This is a conversation about what the long view really looks like. Not just the birth story and the newborn phase — though Renee shares those too, including a GP who missed her post-caesarean sepsis and a cow's milk protein intolerance that took months to diagnose — but what it means to raise a donor-conceived child who is starting to ask real questions, to build a village from scratch in a new city, and to feel, genuinely, that this life is fuller than anything you could have imagined before it.
In this episode:
The colleague who finally told her to just do it — and how one conversation changed everything
Two IUI rounds and her first IVF clinic — and the moment she realised she owed them nothing and left
Finding Dr David Wilkinson at City Fertility, a fresh perspective, and a one-step-at-a-time approach
Three IVF rounds at 39 — low numbers, a Bali holiday between rounds, and the frozen transfer she asked for over the default fresh
The butterfly effect moment: the embryo she asked to be frozen became Aria
Coming home after a caesarean — and the GP who dismissed her concerns, missed her sepsis, and tried to put her on antidepressants
Cow's milk protein intolerance: months of a screaming baby, a GP who listened, and 48 hours to a different child
Donating her remaining embryo to another solo mum via Facebook — and what that process involved
Aria at seven: the donor questions she's asking, what Renee tells her and what she doesn't, and why she won't build up a donor who may disappoint
The one and done decision — and the clear-eyed logic behind it
The solo mum community: nearly giving up after two bad playground meet-ups, a leap-of-faith camping trip to Phillip Island, and the village she now can't imagine living without
The daughters of solo mums — and why Renee thinks they're going to have a fundamentally different relationship with what they need from a partner
What she'd say to Aria, and what she'd say to anyone sitting on the fence
Key Takeaways
You owe your fertility clinic no loyalty if it's not the right fit — changing clinics can change everything
Advocate for yourself in IVF decisions — Renee asked for a frozen transfer over the default fresh, and that embryo became Aria
Trust your instincts about your baby's health. If a GP dismisses you, find another one and bring your list
Building your village takes time, a few wrong fits, and one leap of faith — but it is out there
The solo mum community doesn't just support the mums — it creates chosen family for the children too
When your child says they wish they had a dad, ask more questions — it's almost never about the dad
Raise your child to know they are enough on their own before they look for anyone else to complete them
You can donate a remaining embryo to another family — ask your clinic about your options
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Eight Months from Egg Freezing to Pregnant
Ashleigh's story is one of those ones that will genuinely reassure anyone who is at the very beginning of this journey and quietly terrified about how long it might take.
She was 33 when a friend planted the seed about egg freezing. She went to an initial clinic consultation — more curious than committed — and on the same day, a colleague at work mentioned she'd just had a baby via IVF with a sperm donor. Two seeds in one day. Eight months later, Ashleigh was pregnant.
There were no complications. No failed transfers. No long waitlists. She found a donor quickly, did a fresh IVF cycle alongside her frozen eggs, got six embryos, and fell pregnant on the very first transfer. She still has five embryos in storage.
She's a Queensland primary school teacher who now works three days a week at a school ten minutes from home and daycare. She took Z to Europe for a month at nine months old with her mum. She has connected with donor-conceived siblings — one of whom lives ten minutes away. And when asked what she'd tell someone sitting on the fence, she was in tears before she could even answer.
This is a lovely, warm, uncomplicated episode. Not every story on this podcast is a long or hard one — and that matters. This is proof that sometimes it really does just work.
In this episode:
Spending her 20s and early 30s as a dedicated primary school teacher — and how burnout shifted her thinking about what she actually wanted
A friend's egg freezing journey planting the seed — and a colleague's announcement on the same day as her first clinic appointment
Freezing her eggs at 33 and being pregnant by 34 — eight months from first appointment to positive transfer
Choosing an international donor in Queensland: blue eyes, healthy profile, and deliberately not overthinking it
A fresh IVF cycle alongside her frozen eggs — 15 eggs, 6 embryos, and a positive first transfer
Why she chose IVF over IUI — and the donor consent consideration that drove that decision
A straightforward pregnancy clouded only by constant nausea — teaching primary school while vomiting several times a day
An emergency caesarean and a surprisingly smooth recovery
The newborn phase that was easier than expected — and the 48 hours without sleep in Europe that was not
A month in Europe at nine months — what works, what doesn't, and why nine months is probably the cut-off
Returning to work three days a week at a school ten minutes from home and daycare
Connecting with donor-conceived siblings through the sperm bank's Facebook community — including one family ten minutes away
Five embryos still in storage, the question of a second child, and three flights of stairs
What she'd do differently: building the support network before baby arrives
Key Takeaways
The journey isn't always long — sometimes it really does move quickly, and it's worth starting sooner than you think
You don't need to overthink donor selection — knowing your non-negotiables and keeping a clear head serves you better than analysis paralysis
Choosing IVF over IUI when you want more than one child has practical advantages — embryos offer more protection than stored sperm alone in some circumstances
Build your support network before baby arrives — not after you're in it and everyone around you already has children
Returning to work part-time in a flexible, local role changes everything about the solo mum juggle
Connecting with donor-conceived siblings is better to do on your own terms before they potentially cross paths organically
Frozen embryos give you the luxury of time when it comes to the second child decision — you don't have to rush
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Nearly half of first-time mums in Australia will have their labour induced. Most of them have no idea what that actually involves until they're in the middle of it.
This episode is here to change that.
I'm joined by Nat — Melbourne midwife, solo mum of three boys, and someone who has had three very different births of her own (including one that ended with her in ICU — more on that in her own episodes, which are linked below, but maybe save those for after you've had your baby). Nat works in a Melbourne tertiary hospital, and she's here in a personal capacity to give you a practical, informed, non-scary breakdown of what an induction actually is — and what you need to think about as a solo mum specifically.
This is not medical advice. For risks, benefits and research, Nat recommends The Great Birth Rebellion podcast — search your specific situation and you'll find the evidence base you need. What this episode gives you is the foundational knowledge to walk into those conversations with your care provider informed, confident, and asking the right questions.
Because here's what Nat — and I — both wish more women knew before they got to this point: there's a significant difference between being offered an induction because it's hospital policy, and being offered one because of your specific medical situation. Knowing which one you're in changes everything about the conversation you should be having.
In this episode:
What an induction actually is — and the difference between induction and augmentation
Why nearly one in three women are induced in Australia, and nearly half of first-time mums
The two types of induction recommendation: hospital policy versus your specific medical situation — and why this distinction matters
The BRAIN acronym — Benefits, Risks, Alternatives, Intuition, Nothing — and how to use it in any appointment
The bishop score — what it is, what it means, and what happens next depending on the result
The gel and pessary — how they work, how long they take, and what to expect
The balloon catheter — what it actually is, how it works, and why you can ask for gas and air
Breaking your waters — what it involves and why it's less dramatic than it sounds by this point
The oxytocin (syntocin) drip — how it works, why it's different from natural labour, and why Nat recommends going in with an open mind about epidurals
CTG monitoring — what the straps are doing, what the numbers mean, and what it means when they adjust the drip
Why an induction can take two to three days — and what that means practically for solo mums with limited support
Birth plans, support people, doulas, private midwives, and student midwives — your real options
How to advocate for yourself if you're being pushed in a direction you're not comfortable with
Birth trauma — what causes it, and how being informed reduces your risk
Postpartum doulas and private midwives — what they can do for you after baby arrives
Setting your home up for a C-section even if you're aiming for a vaginal birth
Key Takeaways
Ask your care provider: is this induction recommendation based on hospital policy, or on my specific medical situation? The answer should change how you respond
Use the BRAIN acronym in every appointment — Benefits, Risks, Alternatives, Intuition, Nothing
An induction can take two to three days — plan your support accordingly, and don't assume you'll have your baby the same day
If you're a solo mum without a support person, a doula or student midwife can be your advocate in the birth suite — and they don't count toward your support person limit
Research epidurals before you need one — going into an induction without considering it sets you up for a harder experience
Prepare your home for a C-section recovery even if that's not your plan — the solo mum who has meals in the freezer and grab rails in the bathroom will thank herself no matter what happens
Birth trauma comes from not being heard, not from the type of birth — being informed is protective
You can say stop at any point in this process. Even mid-induction. You are not obligated to continue anything without being heard
Resources Mentioned
The Great Birth Rebellion podcast — evidence-based research on all birth scenarios
The Positive Birth Company - bite-sized, scenario-by-scenario birth education
The Complete Guide to Postpartum: A mother-focused companion for life after birth by Sophie Walker's postpartum book — highly recommended for solo mums preparing for the fourth trimester
Nat's episodes on this podcast — Part 1 and Part 2 (save for after baby is here)
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When Maree came on to record, she had just had her very first IUI. She was 35, freshly into treatment, overwhelmed by the scan schedule, quietly terrified, and moving back in with her parents to make it financially possible. We recorded Part 1 that day.
Then we waited.
Part 2 picks up on the other side — after two unsuccessful IUIs, a full IVF cycle with PCOS that produced 29 eggs and four embryos, a frozen transfer that worked on the first attempt, and the arrival of Ellena via a planned maternal-assisted caesarean. Maree pulled her own daughter out. She cut the cord herself.
In between, she navigated a lot. Fibroids that grew significantly during IVF and were monitored throughout pregnancy. An anterior placenta that meant she barely felt Ellena move until 26 weeks. Nausea so constant and all-consuming that she didn't show until very late — the hospital receptionist didn't believe she was there for a caesarean. Tongue tie, silent reflux, and a Tresilian residential stay that changed everything. And a hip dysplasia diagnosis — DDH — that her maternal health nurse picked up at two weeks, and that her paediatrician almost let slip through. Ellena is currently in a Rhino brace. She's also, by all accounts, obsessed with the nine-year-old next door who has decided that Ellena is her cousin and introduces her as such to everyone she meets.
Maree works in disability support, lives with her parents in regional New South Wales, has ankylosing spondylitis managed by immunosuppressant medication, and came to this whole thing alone — no partner, no previous solo mum in her circle, just a childcare worker who remembered a mum she worked with in 2010 who had done it this way, and quietly filed it away.
This episode will resonate deeply for women at the very beginning of this journey. And for the women who are already in it.
In this episode:
Growing up in childcare and knowing motherhood was always the plan — but never meeting anyone
A solo mum of twins at her childcare centre in 2010 planting a seed that never went away
PCOS, fibroids and ankylosing spondylitis — discovering her health picture only after starting fertility investigations
Choosing City Fertility for their transparency, the Adam app, and accessible pricing
Navigating CMV-negative donor requirements and genetic carrier matching — a pool within a pool
The counselling session that changed how she thought about overseas versus local donors
Two IUI cycles — painful, unsuccessful, and the moment she said enough
An IVF cycle just before Christmas: 29 eggs, four embryos, OHSS, and a green whistle egg retrieval she was awake for
A frozen transfer in January — positive on first attempt, testing every day for three weeks regardless
Fibroids monitored throughout pregnancy, anterior placenta, barely feeling movement until 26 weeks
A planned maternal-assisted caesarean — and why having some control back made all the difference
Tongue tie, nerve pain, and the lactation journey that ended in formula — and peace
A Tresilian residential stay she almost refused — and the silent reflux diagnosis that transformed their nights
Hip dysplasia (DDH): picked up at two weeks, nearly dismissed at 16 weeks, confirmed by X-ray at four months
Living with her parents, building a village from scratch, and finding another local solo mum through the SMS Facebook group
Plans for a second child — and why Ellena having a full genetic sibling matters to her
Key Takeaways:
Get your fertility tests done before you think you need them — PCOS and fibroids are often only discovered when you start looking
CMV status affects your donor pool significantly — ask your clinic about this early
The fertility counselling session is not a gate check — it's genuinely useful, particularly around donor sibling connections and overseas vs local donors
A green whistle egg retrieval (awake, no general anaesthetic) is becoming more common — ask your clinic about your options
Maternal-assisted caesarean is an option worth knowing about — you can be the first person to hold your baby, even in theatre
Silent reflux doesn't always present with vomiting — constant feeding, gasping and poor sleep can be the signs
Hip dysplasia (DDH) in newborns: ultrasounds can miss it in wriggly babies. Push for an X-ray referral if you have any concerns
Don't cancel the specialist appointment just because a paediatrician says it's fine — trust your instincts and get the second opinion
Moving home temporarily is a practical, sensible, brave choice
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